This brings an extra layer of complexity to the already tangled web of unfaithful relationships.
The intricate triangular relationship that exists between the spouse the unfaithful person and the affair partner can further exacerbate the situation.
Addressing this problem requires more than just promises and ‘do whatever it takes’ mentality.
Effective crisis management especially during the initial crucial thirty days or the so-called D-day of discovering the affair plays a critical role.
The transformation to a healer begins by courageously recognizing and confronting these feelings of jealousy and possessiveness.
Remember the journey to healing and reconciling this triangular relationship is no less than a Herculean task.
But is there a way to channel this jealousy into a resource for surviving the crisis?
Jealousy In Extramarital Affairs
An extramarital affair can bring up intense feelings of jealousy.
Whether it’s the unfaithful spouse or the affair partner who is jealous of spouse the emotion can cause hurt and turmoil in a triangular relationship.
Jealousy often stems from feelings of insecurity.
This lack of security is common in extramarital affairs as they lack friendship common assets and shared dreams.
The affair partner often not enjoying the same level of commitment as the spouse may feel threatened and insecure. This jealousy and possessiveness can end up causing the affair to fail.
Study Statistics
In a study conducted on affair partners 25% of them reported feeling envious of the spouse. They coveted the emotional stability financial security and social standing often enjoyed by the spouse.
Possessiveness And Affair Partners
Affair partners can display possessiveness as well.
This possessiveness to some extent could be viewed as a desire for exclusivity in the relationship.
But more often than not it is a reflection of their fear of losing the relationship.
Possessiveness can lead to severe conflicts and can strain relationships. It’s crucial for the affair partner to meet these feelings of jealousy and possessiveness head-on and communicate well.
Resource
- Crisis Management – Surviving the First 30-days after D-day: This free module could help affair partners and spouses alike in managing the crisis right after discovering the affair.
Jealousy Impact On Spouse In Affairs
In the aftermath of an extramarital affair jealousy and possessiveness can emerge as significant factors leading to additional hurt and tension within a marital relationship. An affair partner might feel jealous of the spouse fostering a triangular relationship fraught with emotional turmoil.
According to a study and the story of Steve and Tom it’s revealed that 25% of affair partners confessed to being envious of the spouse. This jealousy might originate from feelings of insecurity fear of losing the relationship or a desire for exclusive attention.
Impact of Jealousy
Such jealousy can lead to conflicts and strained relationships among the three people involved. Likewise the spouse once aware of the affair might also become possessive and jealous escalating the conflict further.
Affair Relationships: An Inherent Lack of Security
Affair relationships often lack common assets shared wishes and the assurance that comes from a committed relationship. This dearth of security enhances feelings of jealousy and possessiveness.
Coping With Jealousy In Affairs
Managing jealousy within an affair can be a challenge. It’s vital to focus on transformation communication and when necessary professional help.
From Unfaithful Person To Healer
An unfaithful person can choose to embark on a transformation to healer. This journey requires sincere remorse promises to rebuild trust and a commitment to do whatever it takes to repair the relationship.
Communication and Understanding
Clear communication is essential when harbor feelings of jealousy. Open dialogue can help all parties address their emotions.
Surviving The Crisis
The free module ‘Crisis Management – Surviving The First 30-days after D-day’ is a key resource for those working through the initial stages following the discovery of an affair. This material can offer much-needed support during a crisis.
Addressing Jealousy In Affair Relationships
Feelings of jealousy and possessiveness are common characteristics in extramarital affairs often bringing turmoil and hurt into the relationship. It’s essential for the affair partner to acknowledge these feelings and take steps towards crisis management.
Discovering the affair can be a shock commonly referred to as D-day. This shock can often exacerbate feelings of jealousy within the affair partner especially if the unfaithful person decides to stay with their spouse.
The concept of ‘do whatever it takes’ is applied by many affair partners in an attempt to maintain the relationship but this often feeds the jealousy further. This jealousy stems from insecurity a fear of losing the sexual relationship or a unique desire for exclusivity within a triangular relationship.
A recent study suggests that 25% of affair partners reported feeling jealous of the spouse. This jealousy can lead to strained relationships and may escalate conflicts between the individuals involved.
The story of Steve and Tom is a real-world example of an affair causing harm. Through their journey they move from hurt to transformation becoming a resource others can learn from.
Their journey fosters their transformation from being unfaithful to healers.
Their story and other resources can be found in a free module called “Crisis Management – Surviving the First 30-days after D-day.” This module is a valuable resource for anyone dealing with the jealousy and hurt of an affair.
Addressing and communicating feelings of jealousy is critical in maintaining a healthy relationship. Affair relationships often lack the security and assurance found in a marriage and it will require patience and time to get over it and manage these feelings.